My Top 10 Must-Watch Korean Movies (English Subbed)

This is not your average Korean movie list, so be sure to check it out– from Chubby Revolution to Time to Silenced (The Crucible).

These 10 Korean movies will challenge your perspective of your own society and your perspective on humanity as they blur the lines between justice and revenge– love and obsession– beauty and ugliness.

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Dating In South Korea

What its like to date in South Korea–from dating culture to typical dates to blind dates and even how BIG age differences sometimes don’t even matter.

Love always seems to be in the air in South Korea. Koreans even have romantic holidays– one for each month, which puts Valentine’s Day in North America to shame!

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Black Girls: Letters To Korean Boys

Warm words, warnings, and wisdom from black girls to Korean boys in 17 sweet, smart, and oh-so-honest letters!

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Korean boys. Here? Yes. These search terms have brought visitors to my blog, but please excuse the bad grammar– it’s definitely not mine:

“i’m a corean boy”

“meeting african girls in seoul”

“are black girls into korean guys?”

“i like black girls and i’m from korea”

“do american girls like korean guys?”

“im korean and i want a african american girl”

I was just as shocked as you might be, although I wasn’t surprised. After all, Korean boys are probably just as confused about us as we are about them; and, when confused, don’t we all go to Google? So, Korean boys, here are 16 17 letters from black girls. 


Black Girls: Letters To Korean Boys

I received so many submissions that addressed what we as black girls want YOU to know about us, and I thought about how to put them all together for a LONG time.  Finally, I decided to write this guide as our “handwritten” letters to you.

In it, you will get to find out about us as we separate the fact from the fiction and talk about everything from our fears to our futures to some of our favorite and least favorite things.

Letter #1:

We don’t only date within our race. So, if you like us, then don’t be afraid to ask us out. True love is color blind.

Letter #2:

We are open-minded and diverse. A lot of us find different races just as attractive as our own; and, sometimes, maybe even more attractive than our own! We actually are attracted to you, too, but sometimes we have no clue what to say to you, which probably goes both ways.

Letter #3:

We can be approached the same way other girls can– with varying results. If you do work up the courage to talk to one of us, then just because she happens to reject you or be rude to you doesn’t mean that we all will. And, if you do approach us, be genuine. A black girl is not your 장난감. A black girl is not your one-nightstand. A black girl is not your fantasy.

Letter #4:

Don’t make assumptions about us or our culture. We probably have a lot more in common than you might think! Some of us even speak Korean, and a lot of us are willing to learn.

Letter #5:

You do not have to act like a Korean version of Lil’ Wayne to impress us– just be yourself, and don’t assume we won’t like you for who you are! So, don’t be afraid to make the first move: Give us a compliment, flirt.

We are just girls before we are black girls. So treat us that way– as girls, as people. Don’t only see the color of our skin, but do be careful when you talk about or touch our hair.

Letter #6:

There are quite a few of us who are nothing like the media portrays us– I mean, we are the complete opposite, in fact.

Letter #7:

For example, we don’t want your money, and we won’t get pregnant just to get it. My ex-boyfriend’s mom always thought I just wanted him for his money, since “black people are so poor.” This is also just another false stereotype.

Letter #8:

Basically, many of us do not fall into that stereotypical “ghetto lifestyle.” We don’t all “talk ghetto”, live in the hood, and want a “gangster boy.”

Letter #9:

But, we don’t all look like Beyoncé or Halle Berry, either….

Letter #10:

We are all different. Not all of us are loud. Some of us are quiet. Some of us have short tempers, but some of us don’t. So, take the time to find out about us on an individual basis. How?  Just say, “Hi.” I mean that’s a good start, right?

Letter #11:

So, please don’t try to lump us all into one category, especially if your entire knowledge of us is based on music videos.

Letter #12:

Be confident and willing to talk to us and to get to know us. We want to know that you genuinely care about us and that you are willing to embrace us, including our culture and the struggles that go along with it.

Even though we are known for being strong, independent, and opinionated, we want to be loved, treasured, and respected like everyone else. We want someone to lean on, so if you do love us, then be ready to support us and stand up for us, too.

Letter #13:

Please make sure your parents are okay with interracial relationships, because it will be hard for us (and YOU) if you have to choose us or your parents in the end.

Letter #14:

We love your eyes. They’re charming.

Letter #15:

We are sexy, but we can be cute and do aegyo, too!^^

Letter #16:

We don’t believe the stereotypes about how you aren’t good in bed or have a small penis; because, “it isn’t the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean.”

The Last Letter, My Letter to You All

I hope that this guide and these letters from black girls to Korean boys starts the process of building better relationships between black girls and Korean boys. But, this isn’t just a guide for Korean boys. It’s a guide for the world, which is often too judgmental of black girls– of black people– of Korean people– of people.

And, if you’re not afraid to stand up for yourself in this world even if you are different and if you’re not afraid to open your mind and heart to someone else in this world even if they are different from you, then thank-you for being the change that I wish to see in the world.


And, stay tuned for letters to black girls as Korean boys respond!

P.S.: I really couldn’t have written this guide without the help of the Korean boys who first stumbled across my blog and the black girls who then gave me their sincere thoughts, words, and hearts as we tried to help them the same way we’ve been helping each other. Thank you all!