Daniel Cooper, my friend and fellow blogger at Voyage To Asia, is back with another great guest blog post!
And, if you haven’t read his first guest blog post, then be sure to check it out HERE.
This week he’s back to tell us more about his sometimes hilarious, sometimes heartwarming experiences in Asia!
How One Korean Girl Broke My Heart, Then Fixed It
First off, this post is a little sensitive as it contains a bit of racism and targets international relationships, but…
Isn’t that what WGEB is all about?
So, let’s share!
After being in China for a few months prior to the time this incident happened, I had already learned a ton of Chinese that I can competently use in any situation. It goes without saying that I thought I was “that guy.” My confidence was at an all time high, and I started learning some Korean around this time, too.
So, this is the story of how a Korean girl attacked me with racism, and then came back with real understanding. Now, she is one of my closest friends, but it all started during our first round of drinking one night in China.
“Daniel, what club do you want to go to tonight?”
“Hmm, well it’s up to you guys, but… Ruby’s is always fun.”
“Okay, then let’s go to Ruby’s!”
So, after some soju and Indian food (Exotic, right?), we got a few taxis and were on our way. There were about 11 of us in total.
Once we arrived at the club, we found a sofa big enough for all 11 of us, chilled, had some drinks, and then danced– of course. Since I happened to see one of my other African-American friends, we wandered off together for a bit. Later, we decided to chill outside, and of course he started talking to some Korean girls…
In perfect Korean, which left me speechless and clueless.
I did notice that one Korean girl seemed upset, and I didn’t want anyone to feel left out, especially since I felt left out, so I asked if she spoke Chinese…
We chatted for a good five minutes, and she even cracked a smile before saying that even though I’m funny, don’t think about asking for her number or becoming her friend.
This was confusing as hell, so, like most people would, I asked her why.
She said, while pointing:
“You see my friend over there?”
“Yeah, she’s talking to my friend.”
“Yeah, I don’t like black people, so don’t ask me for my number or anything. Sorry, nice guy.”
Without pausing, I said:
“Okay well, give me your number.”
“Didn’t I say don’t ask?!”
“I didn’t ask.”
“Go away, I really hate black people. They are always so mean and vicious, and you don’t know how to love people right. I don’t trust you.”
I wanted to ask her what happened, but she kept on going and said:
“I swear if I see another black person hurt my friend or any of my friends, I will never let it go. I will never accept it.”
But, what really happened?!
Well, after doing my best to hear her out, I found out that her friend was really hurt by a black guy who cheated on her twice AFTER she forgave him, and then he lied to her about his visa expenses. She gave him half, since she didn’t have much at that time, and he took the money and ran…
Which is stupid, and not just because she is really beautiful!
First, I want to thank Daniel for coming back like he promised, and I can’t wait to read the rest of his story!
Second, I wasn’t shocked by what she said, because I’m guilty of the same thing. I had a bad experience with one Korean guy a LONG time ago, and because of him I swore that I would never be friends with, like, or date a Korean guy ever again…
Well, the VERY next day I met my first boyfriend– a Korean guy, and I couldn’t have met a better guy! So, I think Daniel did exactly what he should have done in that situation: Keep an open mind and an open heart, even if someone else’s mind and heart are closed.
We all have our ideas about other races of people who are different from our own, and these ideas can be good or bad, positive or negative. However, like the girl Daniel met and I did, it’s important to realize that our ideas about other races of people– if prejudiced by one bad experience, are definitely wrong.
And for once, being wrong never felt so right!